Cognitive dissonance occurs when we hold two conflicting beliefs in our minds at the same time. This conflict causes feelings of tension. If you have been the victim of a narcissist or a psychopath then you know the sting of cognitive dissonance.
Narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths have the ability to confuse those of us who have been so wiling to trust them. Those of us with high empathy naturally trust others. This beautiful quality makes us targets for predators like psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists.
I want to thank Tricia from Seattle who wrote me and asked me to do a video on cognitive dissonance. She is a professional educator with a Masters degree who recently kicked a psychopath out of her life. She wanted to better understand her cognitive dissonance so she could be better understand how her mind rationalizes information she finds conflicting. She is tired of attracting narcissists and psychopaths into her life.
Those of us who are codependent and or love addicts may hold unrealistic ideas about love in our minds. This romanticized view of love makes us more susceptible to narcissists and psychopaths. Reframing our ideas about authentic love allows us to better protect ourselves moving into the future, and increases our chances of attracting healthy people into our lives.
Children of narcissistic parents, who are now suffering with codependency symptoms, may be struggling to learn how to love themselves after narcissistic abuse. Narcissists tend to attract people pleasers, or codependent personalities. Because codependents are eager to please, because they seek outside validation, they are easy targets for narcissistic lovers, and friends.
It is not easy to learn how to love yourself after narcissistic abuse, but with the right codependency recovery tools it is possible. It is even possible to find love after codependency.
Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and mentor. She is also the creator of the expert praised 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program.
Her books are;
The Road Back To Me
My Road Beyond The Codependent Divorce
Codependent Now What? It’s Not You-It’s Your Programming
Loving the Self Affirmations 1 & 2
Quantum Tools To Help You Heal Your Life Now
To learn more about Lisa A. Romano please visit https://www.lisaaromano.com
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